“When You Want to Quit Therapy (And Kinda Ghost Your Therapist)”

“When You Want to Quit Therapy (And Kinda Ghost Your Therapist)”
Let’s talk about it. You’ve been showing up to therapy… mostly.
You’ve cried, processed, reflected, possibly rage-texted your ex.
And now you’re thinking:
“Is this even working?”
“What’s the point?”
“Maybe I should just stop showing up.”

First of all: you’re not alone. Wanting to bail on therapy is part of therapy. And your therapist (hi, it me 🙋🏽‍♀️) probably sees the signs before you even say it out loud.

Spoiler alert: you don’t actually want to quit therapy… you want to quit feeling uncomfortable. And those two things? Very different.

 
🚩 The Secret Signs You’re Thinking About Ghosting
You cancel “just this week”... for the third week in a row.
You stop bringing real stuff to sessions and just recap your errands.
You start telling your therapist “I’m fine” while internally screaming.
You mentally write a goodbye text but never send it.
Therapy doesn’t have to feel good to be doing good. It has to feel real. And real is messy.

 
🧠 Why You Want to Quit (But Should Probably Stay)
Let me break it down:

You hit something deep: Your brain wants to avoid the hard stuff. Totally normal. But working through it is where the magic (and science) happens.
You feel exposed: Vulnerability hangovers are real. Therapy isn’t just venting—it’s emotional cardio. You’re tired. I get it.
It feels slow: Progress in therapy doesn’t always look like a montage. Sometimes it’s two steps forward, one existential crisis back.
But here’s the truth:
You’re probably closer to a breakthrough than you realize.

 
🧰 Dr. A’s Stay-in-Therapy Toolkit™
1. Say the Quiet Part Out Loud
Tell your therapist: “I’ve been thinking about quitting.” I promise you won’t get in trouble. This is grown-up work, and we can handle it.

2. Revisit Your Why
Why did you start therapy? What were you hoping to feel, learn, or stop doing? Write it down. Stick it on your fridge. Tattoo it on your heart. (Kidding... unless?)

3. Ask for a Reset Session
Therapists are humans, not mind-readers. If things feel stale or unhelpful, say so. We can refresh the goals, switch the approach, or just sit with the stuck-ness together.

4. Don’t Quit on a Down Day
Big therapy decisions should not be made while hangry, triggered, or five minutes after a family reunion. Give it 48 hours.

 
💬 From Dr. A (The Awkward Therapist™):
"Therapy isn’t a one-way escalator to enlightenment. It’s more like a bumpy Uber ride where you keep yelling, ‘Wait—can we go back?’ But you still get there. And you're allowed to complain along the way."